Tuesday, May 12, 2009

F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Best vs Worst....

Today in evening I was chatting with this new friend on messenger. We were talking about each other. In fact trying to know each other when all of a sudden she asked me "Who are your best friends" and I replied" all are best". No but she was not convinced at all and said " no only some are best". I actually tried to convince her that according to me all my friends are best thats why they are my friends and no I dont find any of my friend worst. But some how she was not convinced by my statement or more precisely by my theory.

Like all other people in my childhood I too had a firm believe in Best Friend concept. I actually kept changing my best friends in each class. I still don't figure out Why.. First it was Anchal then Shweta to Geeta to Anjali.. then school finished there..College started and the search also..then I found new best friend Inderpreet who always dominated me and then Preeti..Then what.. college finished.. Entered into Fashion Designing Institute and again list started from Ekta to Shalu..Again that era finished and new era started.. Job..Again list had been started unconsciously..obviously..but dint found any one..Maturity I guess..I got so many friends there..

Whenever I thought about my above stated phase of life or say innocence or might be immaturity..it brings smile on my face.. With time all these friends has gone and lost in their married world..only three are in touch..But the point is ..Are they still my best friends..Ofcourse yes..why not..just because they are not with me so what their memories are still alive. They were my friends and friends can not be worst they are always best thats why we call them Friends..

Friends can never be divided into categories best or worst or timepass (I have heard this word so many times ) If friends are worst or bad then they are enemies not friends.

F.R.I.E.N.D.S. just this simple word gives us so many mix emotions altogether..giggles..endless talks..to discuss opposite gender so often..secrets..gossip sessions..coffee table..music..dance..freaking out and what not on this earth..fun..fun..and fun..

Now I am having friends on orkut, facebook and blogosphere with whom I am discussing all these things..

So the bottom line is never categorized your friends into sections All are BEST thats they are with us as our Friends..

Thank you so much for being my BEST F.R.I.E.N.D.S. You all are special and you all are BEST..

21 comments:

Kaddu said...

Ha ha! Yeah! I also never had a single "best friend" in all my life - they were all equally best, as you put it! :-D LOL! Friends sure do make life more enjoyable... otherwise it seems so pointless doesn't it... u r born, u study, u find a job... n then u just work n earn money & spend money! Friends r the spices that give life its flavor!

Dreaming Eyes said...

hi kaddu...yeah i agree dat Friends gives all flavours to ones life..thnax 4 ur visit...take care....

Prasant Naidu. said...

One relationship that u make by ur own wish. Categorization is like generalization and i don't classify friends like that. Yes true and genuine ones are those who stick with u in ur thick and thin times.
Nice exploration of different perspective of life and strings attached to it.
Keep Rocking EM,
Prasant.

Dreaming Eyes said...

heeyyy thanx Mr.PN..thanx 4 ur visit and appreciation...u r also a frnd now...

take care...keep visiting..keep writing..

hemal said...

I have a best friend and dont know whether she considers me one! but she is the one who i confide in more than my gf.

sm said...

Friend in need is indeed,time may show that the friend whom you hated most may be really your best friend.

Dreaming Eyes said...

@ sm ; hmm possible.....:-)

take care....

e cigarette said...

Well, I'd like to say I had a best friend growing up, but now that I look back at it, I think they were just good friends in general. Those who I thought were my best friends are not anymore, but we do keep contact and meet occasionally.

I find that my best friend (as pathetic as this may sound) is myself (and God of course). I know what I want, I know what makes me happy, etc.

BTW, I found your blog via BlogCatalog.com... you were asking for blog opinions, and I think your blog looks great! As for your English, you write very well... The important thing is that you get your point across, and you do that well! :)

Dreaming Eyes said...

hi e cigarette...nice blog name...first of all thanx so much for ur visit and ur comment..and its nice to hear dat u like my blog..

and i also thnk dat wen u r able to connect wid god..u dnt need ppl to share ur emotions..i personally do dis..but still frnds has their own part and space in ones life..so they r necessary and special and loved ones at one time...

take care...and do visit again..keep blogging...keep writing..enjoy life...

Dreaming Eyes said...

hi hemal..thanx 4 ur visit and comment...well every1 has their own perceptions abt frnz..life..so do we..

do visit again...take care...

e cigarette said...

Hey DEyes,
Yes, friends are definitely great to have around for comfort, fun, etc.

Keep up the awesome work! :)
Take care!
May

As the Mind Meanders said...

I disagree... I think best friends do exist... and I am dead sure you will find one soon...

I have a lot of friends.. but there are these three friends that I have known since childhood... we went to the same school and different colleges. We used to stay in the same locality but are now spread across the city and the world.

BUT while some of the friends that I made in college, at work, shared rooms with are now no longer in touch (some are), these chaps I grew up with are in touch. Every Day. Thanks to the net. Its easier now.

While with other friends of mine, I can discuss those happy or unhappy parts of life or interests that overlap with theirs, with my best friends... everything overlaps or maybe nothing does.

A best friend to me is someone with whome I can spend 5 hours with and dont have to say a word to communicate and there are no uneasy silences.

As the Mind Meanders said...

I disagree... I think best friends do exist... and I am dead sure you will find one soon...

I have a lot of friends.. but there are these three friends that I have known since childhood... we went to the same school and different colleges. We used to stay in the same locality but are now spread across the city and the world.

BUT while some of the friends that I made in college, at work, shared rooms with are now no longer in touch (some are), these chaps I grew up with are in touch. Every Day. Thanks to the net. Its easier now.

While with other friends of mine, I can discuss those happy or unhappy parts of life or interests that overlap with theirs, with my best friends... everything overlaps or maybe nothing does.

A best friend to me is someone with whome I can spend 5 hours with and dont have to say a word to communicate and there are no uneasy silences.

Dreaming Eyes said...

@ e cigarette...thanx...:-)

take care....

Dreaming Eyes said...

hi Mind Meanders....well yeah dat is my perspective...and i hd nvr said dat they dsnt exist...its jst like evry1 is getting busy in their own lives..no1 has time to get interact wid each other...its ok..its life...

life is like a long road journey..each day u meet new ppl if u click with them den they r ur frnz and if not..no worries.. keep walking ahead u wud definitely find some..

wat i wantd to say is dat all d frnz with whom i met in my life..whether they are wid me or not..dsnt matter..they were best at dat time of life nad still are best in their memories...

take care...do visit again...:-)

ultimatechange said...

I completly agree with you, there should not be any classificatn made when it comes to friendship. I myself found it absolutley disgusting when i see on social networking sites options like:-friend, best friend and so on...

Dreaming Eyes said...

@ ultimatechange... thanx 4 ur views..

do visit again...take care.....:-)

Roni said...

well, well
i kinda never had best friend. i never had bacause who ever i make , they go away from me. and never return. so i have only friends..

Good blog though..

Dreaming Eyes said...

hi roni.. welcum here.. thanx 4 expressing ur views..

take care..

Priyanka said...

The phrase "best friend" is so cliche. I agree with your thoughts:)

Dreaming Eyes said...

Hello Priyanka..thanx for ur visit..

take care..:)